Monday, February 9, 2015

Love Me Tender

The Song
As we begin this new week we are in Day 3 of a 7 day countdown before the free screening of the movie “The Song” at Celebration Community Church on Friday February 13th at 7:05pm. “The Song” is a modern day re-telling of the Biblical Song of Solomon. Throughout this week I will be sharing personal insights as well as excerpts from Matt Chandler’s book "The Mingling of Souls”.

5Your breasts are like two fawns, like twin fawns of a gazelle that browse among the lilies.
6Until the day breaks and the shadows flee, I will go to the mountain of myrrh and to the hill of incense.
7You are altogether beautiful, my darling; there is no flaw in you.
8Come with me from Lebanon, my bride, come with me from Lebanon. Descend from the crest of Amana, from the top of Senir, the summit of Hermon, from the lions’ dens and the mountain haunts of leopards.
9You have stolen my heart, my sister, my bride; you have stolen my heart with one glance of your eyes, with one jewel of your necklace“
Song of Solomon 4:5-9

This metaphor Solomon uses may be a little difficult to decipher, but let me see if I can break it down for you. Fawns are baby deer, right? Now, if you saw two baby deer grazing among the lilies, how would you approach them? Let’s assume you have some sense and an appreciation for nature. What do you do? Well, for instance, you don’t tackle fawns. You approach them quietly and gingerly. And if they don’t run away as you slowly approach, you don’t make any sudden moves when you get there. Are you following me here?

We see in this portion of the text that marital sex is not only romantic but also gentle. Women want to feel safe and secure. They want to feel embraced more than grabbed, caressed more than groped.

Make no mistake: Solomon looked at his wife’s naked breasts. He was going to touch them and kiss them. He wanted to go further.

But he was going about the whole thing with an evident tenderness. He was interested in more than his own gratification; he wanted his bride to feel sexual pleasure too—but beyond that, he wanted her to feel loved.

Is your primary motivation during sex your own pleasure, or to make your spouse feel loved? Does it show in how you act? Have you had a real conversation with your spouse about whether they feel safe and secure during sex?

Your pastor and partner in ministry,

Encounter Freddys

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